As someone from the Asian/Indian culture, I have grown up in extended families and have found it to be a mixed bag – both rewarding experience if the communication is open, transparent and the ethos is the same to support the family unit and meet the needs of each of the individual members whilst maintaining a healthy equilibrium, to the complete opposite, when one or two family members are contributing more on every level to trying to keep the family on an equal keel, but due to the other members not pulling their weight, and manipulating the situation, communication breaks down, that no one listens or wishes to be heard and there is complete and utter meltdown leading to open conflict and separation.
In both situations, there comes a time when it’s the healthiest option to strike out on your own. You can do it with the good wishes and open communication on how to divide assets and share knowledge and advice on how to set up your new home. Or you could create maximum drama leading to expensive court cases, mudslinging and right down embarrassing behaviour. But the outcome is the same, only in the second case, you strike out on your own but knowing it will take a very long time to rebuild that trust and communication.
It translates across to how I see the relationship between Scotland and the rest of the UK. Yes Scotland are building a picture of hope and vision, being open, transparent, and communicative, and showing the bigger picture of how Scotland could flourish as an independent nation, with a healthy relationship with the rest of the UK, but are being met at every turn with a barrage of negativity, abuse and downright lies by the opposition.
If one side repeatedly says ‘let’s sit down and talk’ to be counteracted by ridicule, it makes the process longer. It also makes Yes Scotland look like the more mature of the two campaigns, progressive and outward looking, with the Better Together lot looking jaded, holding tightly onto tradition and values which are no longer practised by their own political elk, based on fear and misunderstandings and lies. It’s time to talk. Let’s get down to business and talk independence.
We the people of Scotland are owed at least that much common courtesy.
By NN Riaz